Who’s The Boss…..at a Wedding???

Who’s the boss when it comes to your Wedding Reception in Las Vegas? Is it the Bride and Groom??? The mom???? The Maid of Honor???? The Bride’s sister???? The Venue????? It can sometimes be confusing for a DJ when a half dozen different personalities rush into the DJ area during an event firing demands off the cuff from everything to Giving Additional Toasts to Music Selections to Music Volume to changing the order of events. Unofficially……….and out of respect, we always view the Bride and Groom as the Boss; it’s their Wedding. Sometimes brides do not want to be be bothered with all the specifics and actually prefer that a parent or sibling dictate and plan everything so they can relax and focus on other things. This is fine…………..as long as we know it is your wish.

Who’s the Boss at a Wedding can get tricky “if mom is paying for everything” and mom wants a say in what goes on regardless of what the bride and groom want. The desire of a parent to impress family members, family friends or colleagues from work can overshadow  a Wedding’s true significance; the joining of two families and the celebration of two people in love.

Either way, in the wedding business……..we all strive to please the Bride and Groom first…….and everybody else after; regardless of who is paying for DJ Service. Wedding Receptions are a party…………so the Bride and Groom are usually the ones that feel obligated to please everybody else at the same time which may or may not be possible. From our experience, when people get together in one place, parties can take a life of their own. Seeing each other can spark memories of songs they listened to in school or dances they shared when they were younger.

Weddings are a life-changing event and may be viewed as one of the Pinnacle events for a family. To a parent, when their child gets married, it is a significant achievement. A great deal of emotional and financial preparation can build up before your Wedding Day in Las Vegas. Sadly, the party-planning of the Wedding Reception can be misconstrued as a playtoy for some; an unfulfilled dream for certain family members that may want to invest their own money (and inject their own ideas) for whatever reason; be it the seating arrangement, to the “who’s invited list”, “to where the wedding will be held” etc. Who’s the Boss at a Wedding can also get tricky if the DJ is hired directly by the venue and must comply with the venue’s policies that may or may not have been shared with the bride and groom directly.

Listed below are 5 Tips to help control and prevent unauthorized persons from Acting Like The Boss at your Wedding:
1. Share your Family Structure with the DJ in advance – If biological dad will be there, but you don’t want biological dad to give a speech since he did not raise you and you are not close with him, please let the DJ know in advance. Sometimes distant parents or family members may use a wedding as a bullypulpit to get things off of their chest. At Wedding DJs of Las Vegas, we can help you counter this tastefully and respectfully by wording announcements a certain way to honor and and acknowledge any family members you would like to dance with, recognize, not dance with or not hear from.

2. Choose Assigned Tables for your Reception – Talk with family members in advance and create Table assignments for your guests. Asking for your parent’s advice and considering their comfort level can go a long way here. Plotting out a fluid seating order can improve your party’s fun-factor and prevent uncomfortable situations such as ex-husbands sitting near ex-wives, strangers sitting together, elders sitting too close to loud music etc.

3. Allow guests to make requests – Feel free to request as many of your favorite songs as you wish, but we recommend you allow your guests to make requests as well since they may have traveled from far away at great expense to be at your Wedding and may like to hear certain songs or dances you haven’t thought of. Feel free to designate a Do Not Play list if the thought of certain songs or genres will ruin your mood (clean versions only, No Chicken Dance if you do not want etc.) If grandma wants a Polka song…….let her have it.

4. Limit or go without guest-performers or Karaoke at your Wedding – The Bride and Groom are always the stars at any Wedding Reception we do. Having a surprise Elvis or a Sinatra Tribute performer can be a nice touch during dinner especially since it will be in Las Vegas. Conversely, hearing 6 – 7 good or “not-so-good” intoxicated Karaoke singers at a Wedding can be a distraction and call attention away from mingling and dancing time with the bride and groom. With that said, if hearing 7 family members sing at your wedding will make you happy, then do it.

5. Share your Wishes in Writing – All of the above is vital to share with your venue and Wedding DJ in advance and we recommend you provide to us in writing. If your guests want to hear Country music and we show them your notes that you asked for Salsa, Rock and Top 40 only……..they will understand and the DJ will be exonerated and admired for carrying out your wishes to a T.
At Wedding DJs of Las Vegas, we work extremely hard in the planning stage to clearly execute the right music and announcements at the right time to keep your guests informed and interested. When you contract directly with us, we are in essence a free-wedding planner that will give you advice on the order of events, a realistic timeline, music suggestions for cocktail hour, dinner etc. You are not hiring us for 4-5 hours……our time invested with you is much greater.John DeRosa is the Owner/Operator of Bruno Productions and Wedding DJs of Las Vegas. Call 702-878-4845 or e-mail at events@weddingdjsoflasvegas.com

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