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Who’s The Boss…..at a Wedding???

Who’s the boss when it comes to your Wedding Reception in Las Vegas? Is it the Bride and Groom??? The mom???? The Maid of Honor???? The Bride’s sister???? The Venue????? It can sometimes be confusing for a DJ when a half dozen different personalities rush into the DJ area during an event firing demands off the cuff from everything to Giving Additional Toasts to Music Selections to Music Volume to changing the order of events. Unofficially……….and out of respect, we always view the Bride and Groom as the Boss; it’s their Wedding. Sometimes brides do not want to be be bothered with all the specifics and actually prefer that a parent or sibling dictate and plan everything so they can relax and focus on other things. This is fine…………..as long as we know it is your wish.

Who’s the Boss at a Wedding can get tricky “if mom is paying for everything” and mom wants a say in what goes on regardless of what the bride and groom want. The desire of a parent to impress family members, family friends or colleagues from work can overshadow  a Wedding’s true significance; the joining of two families and the celebration of two people in love.

Either way, in the wedding business……..we all strive to please the Bride and Groom first…….and everybody else after; regardless of who is paying for DJ Service. Wedding Receptions are a party…………so the Bride and Groom are usually the ones that feel obligated to please everybody else at the same time which may or may not be possible. From our experience, when people get together in one place, parties can take a life of their own. Seeing each other can spark memories of songs they listened to in school or dances they shared when they were younger.

Weddings are a life-changing event and may be viewed as one of the Pinnacle events for a family. To a parent, when their child gets married, it is a significant achievement. A great deal of emotional and financial preparation can build up before your Wedding Day in Las Vegas. Sadly, the party-planning of the Wedding Reception can be misconstrued as a playtoy for some; an unfulfilled dream for certain family members that may want to invest their own money (and inject their own ideas) for whatever reason; be it the seating arrangement, to the “who’s invited list”, “to where the wedding will be held” etc. Who’s the Boss at a Wedding can also get tricky if the DJ is hired directly by the venue and must comply with the venue’s policies that may or may not have been shared with the bride and groom directly.

Listed below are 5 Tips to help control and prevent unauthorized persons from Acting Like The Boss at your Wedding:
1. Share your Family Structure with the DJ in advance – If biological dad will be there, but you don’t want biological dad to give a speech since he did not raise you and you are not close with him, please let the DJ know in advance. Sometimes distant parents or family members may use a wedding as a bullypulpit to get things off of their chest. At Wedding DJs of Las Vegas, we can help you counter this tastefully and respectfully by wording announcements a certain way to honor and and acknowledge any family members you would like to dance with, recognize, not dance with or not hear from.

2. Choose Assigned Tables for your Reception – Talk with family members in advance and create Table assignments for your guests. Asking for your parent’s advice and considering their comfort level can go a long way here. Plotting out a fluid seating order can improve your party’s fun-factor and prevent uncomfortable situations such as ex-husbands sitting near ex-wives, strangers sitting together, elders sitting too close to loud music etc.

3. Allow guests to make requests – Feel free to request as many of your favorite songs as you wish, but we recommend you allow your guests to make requests as well since they may have traveled from far away at great expense to be at your Wedding and may like to hear certain songs or dances you haven’t thought of. Feel free to designate a Do Not Play list if the thought of certain songs or genres will ruin your mood (clean versions only, No Chicken Dance if you do not want etc.) If grandma wants a Polka song…….let her have it.

4. Limit or go without guest-performers or Karaoke at your Wedding – The Bride and Groom are always the stars at any Wedding Reception we do. Having a surprise Elvis or a Sinatra Tribute performer can be a nice touch during dinner especially since it will be in Las Vegas. Conversely, hearing 6 – 7 good or “not-so-good” intoxicated Karaoke singers at a Wedding can be a distraction and call attention away from mingling and dancing time with the bride and groom. With that said, if hearing 7 family members sing at your wedding will make you happy, then do it.

5. Share your Wishes in Writing – All of the above is vital to share with your venue and Wedding DJ in advance and we recommend you provide to us in writing. If your guests want to hear Country music and we show them your notes that you asked for Salsa, Rock and Top 40 only……..they will understand and the DJ will be exonerated and admired for carrying out your wishes to a T.
At Wedding DJs of Las Vegas, we work extremely hard in the planning stage to clearly execute the right music and announcements at the right time to keep your guests informed and interested. When you contract directly with us, we are in essence a free-wedding planner that will give you advice on the order of events, a realistic timeline, music suggestions for cocktail hour, dinner etc. You are not hiring us for 4-5 hours……our time invested with you is much greater.John DeRosa is the Owner/Operator of Bruno Productions and Wedding DJs of Las Vegas. Call 702-878-4845 or e-mail at events@weddingdjsoflasvegas.com

10 Ways to Have a Great Time At Your Wedding Reception

Being a Wedding DJ in Las Vegas gives us access to all the Wedding Venues of Las Vegas. We get to see families rich and poor, elegant weddings, self-proclaimed “Redneck Weddings”, American, European, very young couples, older couples and more. Below, please see our list of the Top 10 Ways to Have a Great Time at your Las Vegas Wedding Reception. A must-read for couples soon-to-be-married.

1. No Cell Phone on your Wedding Day

As a society, we have grown to “covet” our cell phones with their ability to call, text, check e-mail, take pictures and more. Our recommendation to a couple on their Wedding Day is to leave the cell phone at your hotel room. If a call must be made, ask a parent or member of the wedding party to call for you. Don’t let your phone distract you or be concerned with losing it during all of your travels on your Wedding Day. You can go on Facebook when you are on your honeymoon and post all the pictures you want.

2. Pre-pay Everything

Be sure to Pre-pay your Banquet Room, Limo Service (and tip), Disc Jockey, Flowers, Photo, Video etc. before your Wedding Day. The last thing you want is to have to worry about money “or if there is enough left on the credit card” to cover everything. We have witnessed first-hand the consequences…………….the bride and groom arguing after the Reception as to why both of their credit cards are maxed out while the Banquet Manager awaits payment. Not a good way to start off your marriage.

3. Designate an Assistant to The Bride

This is usually the Maid of Honor. This person should be a jack-of-all-trades; able to help with makeup, hair, handle shoes, distribute gift bags, handle the Guest Book, coordinate with DJ etc. Give them a checklist to carry and refer to throughout the day. Imagine yourselves as Prince Harry and Princess Catherine…………..smiling and looking their best while their entourage caters to their every need.

4. Designate an Assistant to The Groom

This could be the Best Man or a Sibling. This person should be the “drill seargent for the guys”; keeping them together and looking good at all times. Give this person a checklist to carry and refer to throughout the day. Give them a few hundred dollars and ask them to tip out everyone providing excellent personalized service (Officiant, Limo Driver, DJ, Bartender, Banquet staff etc.)  The groom should not have to worry about (or handle) money on his Wedding Day. He’ll have the rest of his life to worry about money. www.frugalbride.com/tipping.html

5. Child Care

Some Newleywed parents are so devoted to their children that they cannot separate themselves from small children…………even for a Four Hour Reception. We recommend you designate someone to care for your child at your Wedding (if you have any.) The bride and groom should not have to worry about diaper bags and feeding times on their wedding day. Your Wedding Reception in Las Vegas will be a unique gathering. By all means; take pictures and dance with your children, but at the same time try to spend as much time with your guests as you can.

6. Budget your Mingling Time

Look at your list of guests carefully in the days leading up to your Wedding Day. Think of all the people that are coming from all over the country to be a witness to your Wedding. Look at all of the people that helped you plan (or even pay) for your Wedding. If you are not a social person by nature, make the effort for the night. We have seen numerous couples spend hours by themselves at The Main Table eating and looking at their cell phones (see Tip #1.) The only time the Bride and Groom should be at The Head Table is during Dinner and the Toast. Once you are done eating, be sure to “make the rounds” to each table, thank each person for coming and take a picture with every single guest.

7. Do Not Be Late

You are paying thousands (or even tens of thousands) of dollars for your Wedding Day. Enjoy every minute of it and be sure to start on time (your guests will appreciate this the most.)

8. Keep Everybody Together

We have seen Ceremonies and Receptions delayed because someone went to their hotel room or someone wanted “to go change.” We have seen cases of people that have missed the shuttle bus from the Ceremony to The Reception Hall and delayed the start of the Reception by over an hour. Las Vegas has some of the best chefs in the world that must plan to feed 50-100 people and up…………..all at the same time. If you want your guests to enjoy their food delivered at it’s freshest, stick to the start time. Make a list. Count heads. Keep everybody together (see Tip #3.)

9. Hash out any Family Squabbles before your Wedding

Every single person at your Wedding should be positive and supportive of your decision to be married. If they are not, do not invite them. Be sure all ex-wives, ex-husbands, dads, step-dads, moms, step-moms can get along and will be civil. Sometimes special occasions can be happy and painful (should I invite my real dad even though he wasn’t around etc.) Talk it out……………maybe throw an engagement party beforehand to “test the waters.”

10. No fighting and No Arguing at your Wedding

It’s your Wedding Day. The theme should be Peace, Love and Prosperity. A bride pointing, yelling and banging on the table is not the image of a “Princess.” If you suspect any family feuds, squash them immediately. Many Las Vegas venues have a “No Fighting” policy and will shut down your event if a physical fight breaks out. Avoid at all costs. – John DeRosa is the Owner/Operator or Bruno Productions and www.weddingdjsoflasvegas.com. Call 702-878-4845 or e-mail at events@weddingdjsoflasvegas.com